You're doing good works; it's fine if you do them in a few new places to meet a few new faces. But like anything, if you work hard at it, you will succeed.Meet on Organized Trips Many college or university alumni trips that happen when families can't come—after the school year starts, during winter and spring (but not the summer)—are popular with older singles. You May Also Like: Single and Mingle online community group.Chances are, you could meet someone on one of these vacations, especially if they are educational tours or trips with a volunteer component. Do I believe this can be an amazing person, truly worthy of your hopes and dreams? Of course there is always the chance you could meet The One in a supermarket or library. In those circumstances, too, it's hard to know whether the person you meet is actually single. I hear this all the time: "There are no good men out there"; or this: "There are no good women." Usually the speaker illustrates one of the assertions with a sad or funny dating story that ends either with resignation to single status or with anger at the depressing situation he or she "has to" endure.I listen sympathetically but don't share the conclusions. Mature singles have plenty of great people to choose from; but of course, you have to know where to look.
I recently attended a few Read Dating meetings that my local library system sponsored with Perfect Match.com, a site where I serve as a relationship adviser.Be honest about who you are, about how you will be perceived, and about the kind of person who would appreciate you. Don't use a long, involved list of requirements that will narrow your choices down to four people on the entire planet. You can go to boutique online dating sites that select for people who want relationships and are so motivated that they will pay premium prices to find them.You probably know some of the more popular ones, but there are smaller, targeted sites you might not have known to try.In some cities, clubs for singles do a variety of outings—ranging from a night at the opera to sports competitions.