For reasons that betray logic, short men get the you-know-which end of the stick and are ostracized when it comes to partner selection. —is also at work in the dynamic of sexual attraction among gay men, I'll focus on women here due to sheer numbers. Not quite, though it does seem that most women feel that short men aren't relationship material.Having heard short male clients of mine complain about their jeopardized status in the dating pool, I can speak for at least some of them when I say that short men believe that women see them as less than or deficient, as if models pulled off an assembly line because they don’t measure up to the others.I don't think these beliefs were sparked by inherent anti-feminism or anything. From the Kevin James's and Steffiana de la Cruz's of the world. Until I met the guy, that is (and I don't say that to be cheesy or naive or to claim that we're the "greatest couple in the world"). He was kind, unable to tell a lie with a straight face, funny, nerdy, creative and musical.It's OK — it's right — for a big dude to have a skinny wife. He respected and encouraged every dream and every goal to implant itself into my brain. Ok Cupid is free to join, free to search, and free to message. I didn't date for a long time — far longer than [I think] is considered usual or acceptable amongst teenagers and twentysomethings. I guess it would've been nice to have company at all those miserable, Katy-Perry-fueled homecoming dances or yes, the prom.He can protect her and look after her and make her feel and look like a princess. Well, she may as well be castrating him of all his manly cis-glory and strength. And she'd look even fatter (can't you just hear all those audible gasps in the distance? But, of course, he was two inches shorter and 100 pounds lighter. When I first introduced Paddy to relatives a year after we'd gotten together (because that first year was spent whilst I was studying abroad in Europe, and so meeting anyone in the family was pretty impossible and unnecessary — it was glorious), the obvious reactions ensued.
To them, it didn't matter that he was intelligent or loving or good; it just mattered that I would be the one carrying my boyfriend over the threshold someday. Logic and love prevailed over sizeism and antiquated gender roles! To see a larger woman with a smaller (be it shorter or skinnier) man just isn't the norm (unless the woman is a tall and statuesque model — then it's OK).Author and cultural commentator Bel Hooks refers to this fallacious, pumped up version of the real man as the kind of man who can "take action and break the rules." What characteristics do women find attractive in men?The literature has widely established that women prefer tall men to short men.The study found that the social and emotional image a man presents was crucial to sexual attraction.
Specifically, the study found that women were least attracted to smiling, happy men, preferring those who looked proud and powerful or moody and ashamed.
And with that, going for a guy who is tall and buff but not actually a nice person is even more ridiculous. Check out the video below, and be sure to subscribe to Bustle’s You Tube page for more self love inspo!